Let’s talk about L.O.V.E languages. Like some of you, I didn’t always know what love language was, I always had a general idea of what kind of love I wanted but never knew it was a language until I came across a article on this topic. Being a self proclaimed sucker for love, I was intrigued to learn more now here we are.
There are 5 types of love languages. Each one is just as important and expresses love in its own way. This helps you understand your own primary love language as well as learn the other persons and helps you create a stronger bond in your relationship. Keep in mind that your love language can change, most often when circumstances in your life – because its based on your individual wants and needs as well as the other person. You can and should communicate, compromise, and tweak how you want to be loved.
THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES
l. Words of affirmation – using words to build up your partner. Telling them “I love you.” better yet including the reasons behind the love by leaving them a loving message, talking to them directly with genuine words of kindness and affirmation ie. “Thanks for making me laugh, you made my day.”
2. Gifts – these are not simply material objects — they are expressions of your love. Remember a gift doesn’t mean breaking the bank and buying designer things all the time, it could something simple or even handmade. The message behind gifting is, “He was thinking about me. Look what he got for me.”
3. Acts of Service – Doing something for your partner that you know they will like. Such as Cooking their favourite meals, driving them to work in the morning, doing the weekly food shopping, these are all acts of service. If your unsure of what acts of services are in your relationship, try asking your partner to give ideas for things they’d like you to do that would make their life easier and make it a priority to get them done.
4. Quality time – Spending time with your partner is about being together, going for walks together or relaxing on the couch watching movies in each others company, paying attention to each other, making love, preparing dinner together and talking while preparing and eating it, sharing plans for the future, creating something together ie. painting and giving your partner your undivided attention.
5. Physical touch – This is the most direct way to communicate love, Holding hands especially during a conversation, hugging, kissing, making love, are all expressions of love. Another good example which is a favourite of mine is offering/receiving a body massage.
My Love Language Quiz Results
I decided to share my love language quiz test, it was only right since I decided to write on this topic.
27% QUALITY TIME
21% RECEIVING GIFTS
20% PHYSICAL TOUCH
17% WORDS OF AFFIRMATION
15% ACTS OF SERVICE
I was not surprised at love language, it’s pretty accurate but again this may change. Remember not everyone has the same love language so being aware of the different types will help you understand your relationship better.
Want to know what your love language is? Head over to 5 Love languages below and take the quiz: https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/ let me know in the comments what your results are and if they are what you expected or not.